Friday, February 27, 2009

Thanks - Just being a Moper!

Thanks everyone for your kind words I have let this person I don't know shoot my confidence down to zero. I was moping (is that a word?)last night laying in bed just feeling sorry for myself and I did not go to the gym (should have went I know). One of my Friends called to check in for the day and she could tell I was unhappy and she told me letting this person hurt me is not right that I am so strong that I can pick myself back up and move on. I hear her words but I am finding it hard to move on - I know that words should not matter but somehow they do. I am so upset with myself for letting this consume me and I do know better I just need to refocus and get over it!

Life is to short to let these little things hurt us (I should really listen to myself!) and I really do know I can do this I just need to find myself again and just do it!

Thanks again everyone you guys rock!

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."
- Anais Nin


Jen, a priorfatgirl said...

I totally empathize with you when you say you hear her words but are finding it hard to move on. It's so easy to say, its different thing to really believe.

The best you can continue to do, is take it one day at a time because eventually you will think of it less and less. You are doing so great!!!

My 3 Month Challenge said...

Hello :) I thought I'd say hi although I left a comment on your previous post already. I'm a gym rat too (I suppose you are one judging from your title and banner, sorry if I'm mistaken) and I know how hard it is to keep up with workouts, hoping for results, and weighing your food intake all the time. Good luck to us on our workout programs and hopefully we can achieve our desired results :>

spunkysuzi said...

I know what you mean! I always take everything personally. It's hard not to.

Dutch said...

I am sorry to hear that that person was so mean to you. I had someone do that to me about 10 years ago and I still remember it. It hurt so bad. It was just a guy in a car who almost hit me and starting making moo noises and calling me names. Why do we let people we don't even know hurt us so badly? I seriously know what you are going through. I hope you start to find yourself again and keep up the good work. Next time you run into that person you can shake your sexy self at him. LOL

Lynn said...

I know how you feel...I have been there so many times myself. Someone once told me that I should not let my size define who I am. (I know that I have mentioned this before on someone's blog...if it was yours, sorry for the repeat.) I like to remember this every time I get to feeling down about it. I do know however that many in the world define us by our size so it is so hard to deal with things like this.

This person had no right to make the comments he did. I am glad that you are working at not letting it become something that eats at you. I so know it is much easier to say than actually apply it.

You are a special person and have so much to give to those around you! Remember that!

Alette Siri Ane said...

What is ther to say.I see you are avery sensitive caring person not wanting to let anyone else feel bad!You are a very nice person!!!!
That is a wonderfull trait! Not everyone has it,you sure met one.But think how luckey you are ,you do not have to have contact with him daily.Sure feel bad for those that do!!!Please just stay with people you enjoy and lett the others go by without a thought!

Linda said...

This kind of thing stinks. How to survive?


1. No one can "make" us feel how we feel; we choose our response.

2. Who has the problem? NOT YOU. That person has a problem; try to feel sorry and superior to him because his behavior is something you wouldn't do.

3. If all else fails, vent to no one and call him a low life piece of poo - use your own words at whatever strength - and vent and rant and cry if you must to get it out of your system.

4. Don't feed your hurt.

5. Take back your power to live your life and move on - don't let that insensitive jerk have your power. Take it back, and you win.

Naturally easier said than done and it could take a few days.

Hang in there.